Words From a Decade: Part 3, 2014 & 2015

Before we begin: This is Part 3 of my series: Words From a Decade, my story of trauma and recovery in my own words from the past decade. To go back: Words From a Decade: Part 2 In 2014 and 2015, I went from a complete denial of having been affected by my abusive relationship …

Words From a Decade: Part 2, 2012 & 2013

Before we begin: This is Part 2 of my series: Words From A Decade, my story of trauma and recovery in my own words from the past decade. Part 1 is here: Part 1 2012 and 2013 are probably the most contrasted years of my decade: 2012 being the "rock bottom" year, where I fell …

Red flags

Trauma alters the way we perceive danger in our life. For someone who has not experienced life-altering trauma, red flags might be easy to identify and deal with. For someone who has gone through something traumatic, especially when that trauma was prolonged and eventually accepted as reality, the ability to recognize red flags can become …

Shame

Shame is not the same as guilt. Guilt is "I've done something bad". Shame is "I am bad". Shame is an insidious result of abuse that lurks in the background of your mind, trying to convince you that you don't have the right to feel what you feel. Shame is full of paradoxes: it says you …